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When I tell people that I love everyone, they often look at me sideways with a bit of distrust. But think about it. What is the alternative?
If I have learned nothing else, it is that holding resentments and ill feelings towards others only punishes me. Other people don’t feel my negative emotions, I do. So I choose to love everyone, no matter how they choose to behave and no matter what they say. Choosing love just feels better.
When I tell people that I love everyone, they often look at me sideways with a bit of distrust. But think about it. What is the alternative?
If I have learned nothing else, it is that holding resentments and ill feelings towards others only punishes me. Other people don’t feel my negative emotions, I do. So I choose to love everyone, no matter how they choose to behave and no matter what they say. Choosing love just feels better.
Lately I’ve been working with my clients about the beliefs they have about themselves. I have them write down a list of all the things they think are true about who they are and then I ask them what they want to believe about themselves. I love this exercise because it has been so transformative for me. Once I uncovered the current beliefs I held about myself, I could decide if I wanted to keep them or not. I’ve decided that I am 100% worthy of love after discovering that I held a belief that told me otherwise. I am no longer looking at my past to define what is possible for my future. And I am choosing on purpose what to believe about myself.
Since quitting drinking I have heard the saying, “once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic” many times. At first I felt relief in this sentiment because it offered me an explanation for my out of control relationship with alcohol. It also gave me an out if I were ever to slip back into the habit. But the parts of my brain that were disconnected during my drinking days has hooked back together again and I no longer have that intense desire that I created by thinking thoughts like; “I need a drink” and “alcohol makes everything better” over and over again. I have re-programmed my mind and alcohol is no longer calling the shots, I am.
